Help!

So we've been back here in Pennsylvania for 16 months and are still clueless about where to live. And it is really starting to drive us crazy! We just can't wait for that settled down feeling. We haven't really invested in too many relationships since being back and maybe that has a little to do with being first time parents. And we miss what we had and the relationships that were starting to develop with people in Iowa. We are limited as to where to live because of employment. Ted wants to stay with the company he is with but isn't fond of the nearby towns within driving distance to work. There are a few towns he would be ok with and I as well but some of them would probably mean finding new friends all over again. (which can be done of course) I was friends with some people in the city but since being back it seems everyone is busy and the 20 minute drive sort of hinders things for some reason. And I just dont' know of any other "stay at home moms" who are close by who I could visit or vice versa. We have been hesitant at times to really invest in where we are because we both know that we don't want to be in the town that we are currently living in. We are praying and need to pray more and more specifically. We go back and forth in our minds about if Iowa is where we are suppose to be. We absolutely know that we liked the town of Ames and loved our friends we made and enjoyed Cornerstone Church. But we hate the huge distance it is from our families (especially now that we have started our own family). Ted also really liked his job in Iowa. He is still engineering the trailers for Iowa but just from Pennsylvania but that can be frustrating to him because if they have a problem in the shop when building the trailer, he can't be there to go out and help since he is not in Iowa and he would love to be more hands on at his job rather than sitting at a desk all day long. We just need to figure out where we are suppose to be. So, if you have time and have any suggestions, ideas, etc. please, please, please let us know!